Updated: Aug 21, 2020
Today I decided to write a little about relationships and what I have been learning as a coach for life.
Relationships are not only about the ones we have inside our homes, but also what we have with our friends, close or far, our colleagues, as well as everyone we meet during our busy day and don’t even know their names.
The way we address to people will make a difference in the way we feel about ourselves or our mood on that specific day. Just a “good morning” with a smile can make someone feels better and it will surely make us feel good too.
In a world moved by anxiety and lack of time to care about others, we have to learn to appreciate other people. And we can do that simply by increasing their value, making a compliment on something they did nicely, or just saying “you are looking good today!”. It feels so good to hear that, doesn’t it?
When we make someone feels good, both bodies release endorphins, both will feel good as a consequence.
When we make someone feel bad, by attacking the person for our own pleasure or bad mood, both bodies will release cortisol instead of endorphins. Both bodies will feel bad afterwards. Negativity won’t make you or anyone feel good. And by negativity I understand as anything that puts another person down. It is not what you say, but how you say it. Be kind.
This is a win-win or a lose-lose situation. What we do to others, we literally do to ourselves. This shows how interconnected we humans all are.
An old scientist I met once used to say that if we don’t water the flowers in our garden, they won’t survive, and we will no longer have flowers. So let’s pain attention to our gardens, to the people around us and how we make them feel.
If we judge, we cannot love. Judgment is devaluation. Love is unconditional positive appreciation. Those are two incompatible ways of being.
I will work on having a ‘zero negativity’ day today. Would you join me?